Anne's story

One final goodbye

When Anne’s friend Jenny died last January after a decade long battle with breast cancer, her heart broke.

The pair had been friends since they met at nursing school in 1990 and together they had shared laughter and tears; none more so than on a Sunday in July 2005 when both women had life-changing news to share.

“I told her I was pregnant with my second child and she told me she had breast cancer,” Anne said.

Anne was blindsided.

“When Jenny told me she had Grade 4 Inflammatory breast cancer, we both swore a bit; I knew that diagnosis meant you had three or four years if you were lucky.”

Jenny was adamant that she would beat her cancer and her friends, including Anne, rallied around her.

“Once diagnosed, we started going for girls’ weekends at the beach every three or six months and if we couldn’t get away we’d go for long, long lunches. It was a chance for us to just be us, we didn’t talk about cancer, we just talked about normal things,” Anne said.

After a mastectomy and intensive treatment program, Jenny went into remission.

“We had a big celebration; we celebrated life and our kids, getting back to normal for a while and getting hair on one’s head!”

Back at work, Jenny took on a role working as a breast care nurse at Mater where she offered care and support to women diagnosed with breast cancer.

She celebrated their milestones and held their hands through each setback.

But Jenny’s battle wasn’t over and four years after she was diagnosed with breast cancer, doctors gave the mother-of-two the news she feared most; the cancer had spread to her liver and bones.

I told her I was pregnant with my second child and she told me she had breast cancer.

Anne, whose friend Jenny was diagnosed with terminal breast cancer in 2005

Thanks to your support of Mater Chicks in Pink, Jenny had the chance to work with a qualified counsellor to make a memory box for her family and friends.

“It's hard writing to your children but it's important for me that there are memories left behind and memories recorded of me for my family," Jenny said at the time.

"I want these boxes to be a support for them growing up; I want to provide something that will be comforting when times are tough and upsetting."

Among the letters tucked away inside Jenny’s memory box was one for each of her girlfriends, including Anne.

“It was a surprise; a bit of a sad surprise but she always wanted to have the last say,” Anne laughed.

The friends gathered together and over a few bottles of champagne read their letters and remembered Jenny.

“We were all crying, but I’m so appreciative and grateful and thrilled that she thought to write to us all; it was bittersweet but it’s certainly lovely to have now to read back whether it’s once a year or whenever we need it. 

“Jenny had a driving force to do something that would make an impact on other people’s lives and while she couldn’t work out what that would be, these memory boxes are her legacy.”

Through your generous support, Mater Chicks in Pink now offers mothers diagnosed with terminal breast cancer a chance to work with Judith to create their own memory boxes.

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By supporting Mater Chicks in Pink you'll be making an immediate impact on women being treated for breast cancer, by funding tangible and timely support services like counselling and mastectomy bras—at a time when they need it most. Your funds will also support the work of researchers at Mater Research, who are working on the causes of, and developing potentially life-saving treatment for breast cancer.